Intimacy: Let Me In

Intimacy: Let Me In

Where are you?

But the Lord God called the man, “Where are you?” – Genesis 3:9

Let me start by asking this question. If you are a parent, does it not bring joy and fill your heart when your child comes to you? Do you not swell up with pride or with honor when your baby  says “mom, can I ask you something?”, “Mom, can you sit here with me?”, “Mom, can you help me?”. Of course you do. That is part of being a mom, the awesome part! Being loved, being admired, being needed…the relationship. Now, step that up a notch and think of our Heavenly Father, our Daddy. He too loves nothing more than to hear these words from us, daily. He longs for that moment to moment call out from his daughter saying “Daddy, can I ask you something?” or just “Daddy, will you sit here with me”.

Before sin had entered into the world through the fall of mankind, it is implied that Adam and Eve walked with God each day. God had placed them in the most beautiful garden. They were naked and unashamed there. They walked with God without any fear, anxiety or shame. There was no thoughts of what they should make for dinner, no important phone calls to cut the conversations short and no stumbling with words to find just the right thing to say to Him. I can imagine how peaceful this time must have been. I am sure they looked forward to it daily. It was the most precious of times to them.

Then came the sin. The lie. The act of selfishness. The Bible tells us that their eyes were opened and they realized they were naked. Shame had set in and from this point on we would struggle in our intimate relationship with God.

Things were different now and when their Father came for their walk in the cool of the day he asked, “Where are you?”  Isn’t that what we find him asking us? Sweet child of mine, where are you? In the morning, when we rush to get a sip of our coffee before the treacherous day starts He calls to us, “Where are you?” In the afternoon when you feel you can not go any further, yet there are so many hours left. You have dinner to think about for the family, errands to run, kids to pick up and that uncomfortable converstation to partake in…”Where are you?”

Adam answered, ” I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid. ”  There you have it. Adam was afraid…afraid of what? God didn’t come charging in with bolts of lightning, ready to point fingers and throw them around! He didn’t have a speech prepared to make them feel like scum and put them in their place. He simply asked a question; a question any Father would ask when their child was hiding.

Who told you that you were naked?

And He said, “Who told you that you were naked?” Genesis 3:11A

Adam’s first act as a sinner was to sew clothes together so that he could hide. This is where the hiding first began and it carried right on down to you and I.  God asked him in verse 11, “Who told you that you were naked?” I always wondered why God would ask this. Why wouldn’t He just tell them He knew. The more I have learned about God’s character and heart though, the more I see a loving Father that longed for a relationship with His son and not just a dictatorship. Through the next verses you can literally feel the pain of God for the relationship that was severed. Adam and Eve’s shame came between them and their relationship with their Father. The whole reason they were created was for fellowship with God and with one another and from now on man would struggle to be vulnerable enough to find intimacy with his Creator; with his Daddy.

Probably the best explanation of Intimacy with God that I ever heard was a sermon by Andy Stanley.  A statement he said over and over was “He wants our intimacy. We treat Him respectfully.”  I had to let this simmer for a bit. While we are to treat God with respect, what He wants most from us, what he longs for more than anything is intimacy. He refered to Revelation 3:15-20. Here God is speaking to the church in Laodicea but I find these words speaking to me and to many of us who say we are Christians. We are neither hot nor cold meaning we have a form of Godliness, we are religious but we have not fully given ourselves over to intimacy with God. He says, I wish you were either one or the other.

Futher on into verse 20 God say “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him and he with me.   Let that sit for a moment. “HERE I AM….If ANYONE hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him and he with me.” First of all, why is He standing at the door and knocking? Isn’t He God? Can’t He just come on in? Let me ask you, would that be intimacy? Would a Father who demands love from his child be an intimate relationship full of vulnerability and openness? No. That wouldn’t be a healthy relationship at all. He can not make us love Him so instead, He stands at the door and knocks, waiting for us to hear His voice and open the door. That is all he is asking. Open the door. Open your heart to him. From there, He will come in and begin a beautiful story with us. I love this statement from Mr. Stanley, “He wants more than just to be in. He wants you to invite!” How simple. What a humbleness from our God. What love!

Here I am

Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.- Revelation 3:20

So, after we have opened the door to our Father, what would intimacy look like?

  • Openness– When we “open the door” we are opening our heart. We are putting all of the good, bad and the ugly in front of our Lord and giving Him full access to our souls. Commit to be honest, not careful. Be upfront and transparent.
  • Time – As in any relationship, we have to give it time. We have to put time into anything we want more of and this is also true if we are to have intimacy with our Father. Don’t rush through it. Don’t sit down and have a schedule and a plan of how it will go. Give Him your time, your PRIVATE time. I can assure you, He already has given you ALL of His time!
  • Submission – Mutual submission is something that Andy Stanley mentioned and I was in awe of it’s power. He said,” Mutual submission brings you deep. You are scared because you do not know the Father but God already made the first move.  He submits to us as an invitation for us to be intimate with Him.” What a thought!

No form of intimacy comes easy. It takes denial of self and a willingness to give in a rawness that we rarely see. It can be uncomfortable at first. It can feel scary. It doesn’t happen overnight. BUT, oh the joy we receive from saying “here I am”! The Joy we give to those we encounter through those simple words! Intimacy is a gift that only God can give and that is why to have true intimacy with those on earth, we have to experience it with our Father in Heaven. If you are not experiencing this right now in your life, do not wait any longer. Don’t go through your days without His peace, love and true comfort. Stop trying to do this thing on your own with just shallow acknowledgments to your creator. He’s knocking, open the door and invite Him in.


To read the previous posts in this Intimacy series check out Intimacy: Why 50 Shades of Grey is Not the Problem  and Intimacy: Naked and Unashamed.



9 comments to Intimacy: Let Me In

  • Hi Cassamdra,

    I love the topic of intimacy with the Heavenly Father, it is the exact relationship we are meant to have with him. Isaiah 54 is an amazing example of His heart regarding being close to our hearts. (I have been writing about that this summer at Journeys In Grace) You mentioned at the end that intimacy doesn’t happen immediately… it is a process that takes time and intentional relationship. Exactly what He wants from us.
    Thanks for the reminder.

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  • It’s amazing how intimacy is something we all crave so much but is one of the hardest things to find. We certainly are not being fulfilled by the intimacy we have on earth because true intimacy comes from our Heavenly Father. I can’t wait for the day when I reach Heaven and get to understand what true intimacy is all about. 🙂 Thanks for linking this up with the Faith and Fellowship Blog Hop.
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  • I just love this topic of intimacy with God. Your three points of openness, time, and submission are bang on!

    Thanks so much for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop)!

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom recently posted…SHINE Blog Hop #14My Profile

  • Wow…just wow! I just found you via Pinterest and LOVE this post! It really hit home for me in a lot of ways. I especially love that part about the knocking – I had never thought about that part in regards to relationship/intimacy before, and it was really powerful. Adding you to my feedly 🙂
    Amy @ GoForthandMother recently posted…The Mother’s Examination of SelfMy Profile

    • Amy, Your words are so encouraging!! I was so excited to find this out about the knocking too! It was huge to me and you are the first one that has seen it the same. I am just in awe that the God of all of the universe even cares to “knock” on my door! It is beautiful and I am unworthy. So nice to meet you. I will check out your blog right away.

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